Have you decided that divorce is right for you? Are you ready to move on, but are afraid of the unknown? It’s normal to be afraid of a new life that doesn’t involve your partner, but it can also be an exciting new path forward. Here are some essential tips after a divorce that will lead to a smooth transition, and tips on how to handle the divorce transition so you can start your new life.
1. Keep busy.
Have you ever noticed that when you are going through a hard time, the last things you want to do are things that need to be done? Unfortunately, this leads to moping, disorganization, and anxiety, which in turn leads to more depression. Distraction is the biggest key to getting through a tough time. Start reorganizing your house, go to the gym everyday, keep a journal, and join a group in your local community. The more you keep busy, the more fulfilled you will be with your new life. You will also realize that you can be alone, and will in fact, thrive at it!
2. Be frugal.
Regardless of how much money you have or don’t have, you will feel like you have more control of your life if you start budgeting. Take control of your money since it will be yours and yours alone now. Think of creative ways to save money by eating in, driving less, or taking on a side job. It’s always good to have extra money on hand. It will make the transition easier on you, and you will feel more in control of your life.
3. Meet up with friends-old and new.
Perhaps you didn’t make enough time for your friends when you were married. Or maybe you were lonely and felt isolated because your partner was controlling about whom you associated with. It’s time to start reconnecting with those who you care about, and making dates to get together. If you don’t have many friends, find a meet up group in the local community for newly divorced men or women. Join a class at the gym where you can start talking to people who share your common interests. Friends and a solid support system around you will make life after divorce much easier.
4. Reevaluate yourself and your needs.
Why are you getting a divorce? Was it all of your partner’s fault, or can you admit that there are things you did wrong too? Work to address any character flaws you may have so you can learn from the experience. If necessary, seek counseling from a professional if these issues are deep seated. If you decide to date again in the future, it will help you find a partner who is better suited for you as well.
5. Expect things to be hard.
You will have bad days. Maybe you’ve been feeling good for a while, or are really excited to be on your own. That doesn’t mean that you won’t feel depressed on certain days, or reminiscing of a life back with your ex because you feel lonely. If divorce was so easy, it wouldn’t be such a difficult decision for you to make. Let yourself go through these difficult times and know that this too shall pass. And you will be stronger for it, in the long run.
We know you are having a hard time right now, and that’s ok. You just made a huge decision that is having an impact on many people around you, including your children. Change, both good and bad, is difficult for everyone. However, following some of these life tips on transition after divorce. Soon, you will be thriving in your new life. A brand new you is just around the corner.
Do you have any essential tips to recommend to help you get through divorce? Please feel free to share in the comments below.