The stats speak for themselves. According to divorce.usa.edu, between 40 and 50 percent of marriages nowadays end in divorce. This is an overwhelming and depressing number. The breakdowns of the family and the problems created from divorce have been discussed by everyone from Presidents to activists, and especially religious leaders. What is the problem? Why do marriages fail, and what are the common reasons marriages fail nowadays?
Furthermore, women’s roles in the family have shifted dramatically. Some women in the past were victims of abuse, both verbal, and domestic. They also were expected to have children, and pursuing a career was for the man to take on. Many women now know when to leave unhealthy situations because they know they have other options available.
Lastly, it’s much easier nowadays to get a divorce. Certain changes in divorce laws have allowed people to download documents online, fill them in, and just take them to court. This makes the process not as daunting. Back in the day, they made it a lot harder to get a divorce, especially if you were a woman.
Despite what the causes are for the breakdown in communication between couples, the results can be devastating. A lack of communication also contributes to a breakdown of the family, as the children see this way of communication as the “norm,” though it is anything but. When communication breaks down, trust breaks down, and the marriage is sure to follow.
Maybe you tried to fool yourself in thinking that love would grow from the situation, but it rarely, if ever does. Furthermore, if you were deceitful about your reasons for marrying the other person from the get go, the real reasons are bound to come out eventually. That will lead to more problems.
Infidelity, however, is not the real issue. The real issue is why infidelity took place in the first place. Are you married to a serial philanderer? Was one person unhappy and lonely? Has there been a breakdown in communication? Do you still have intimate relations on a regular basis? It’s nobody’s fault that someone cheated on him or her, of course. However, there are usually things building up to the actual cheating that may stem from bigger problems than the actual cheating itself. The latter are also common reasons why your marriage failed.
Your marriage can last. Your marriage doesn’t have to be part of the 40-50 percent statistic. There are plenty of marriages that are healthy, happy, and full of wonderful memories with close-knit families. Yours can be one of them, as long as both of you work everyday to keep up the hard work required.