It’s that time of year again. The time of year when people wear red accessories, eat heart shaped food, and buy sappy (or raunchy) cards. The time of year when the world population is divided into two groups: the haves, and the chocolate heart binge eaters. No matter when you were divorced, Valentine’s Day brings up mixed emotions that duke it out for your sympathy every February 14th. Loneliness, sadness, sentimentality, rebellious, envious, and whatever else rounds out your sour mood on Valentine’s Day conspire to make the day miserable.
But enough of the ranty pity-party. There are a few ways to reclaim Valentine’s Day for yourself, and thats by living for and loving yourself on Valentine’s Day.
The Mission
As a preliminary step, you need to decide if you can put aside your Darth Vader stance on Valentine’s Day and be a lot more like Yoda (No green skin or burlap robe required). Think of Valentine’s Day as a divorcee like this: You are your own best company (or in Yoda’s dialect: Best company, your own is). When you start thinking about Valentine’s Day as a time for love to abound in general, rather than only between a romantic couple, you’re Valentine’s Day will start to look a little brighter.
The Strategy
Objective 1: Celebrate all the things you love. All your past Valentine’s Days, as with any other holiday when you were married, were about what the two of you wanted to do; undoubtedly, not all of your Valentine’s Day dreams came true 100% of the time. Well, now that you’re celebrating you, this Valentine’s Day is all about what you want, what you like, and how you want to be treated. Valentine’s Day isn’t starting to look so bad now, is it?
Objective 2: Surround yourself with people you love to laugh with. This could be your friends, family members, coworkers, or even a mixture of those people. Whoever makes you laugh, take them out as your date. Eat, drink, be merry, and relish the fact that your date will be full of fun, laughs, and not have any pressure, uncertainty, or awkwardness.
Objective 3: Do something special for yourself. Buy yourself a present, cook yourself something special, go for a rigorous workout, pamper yourself with a spa treatment, or plan a trip to your dream destination. Do something for yourself that you normally wouldn’t any other day because you are worth it.
Objective 4: Do something nice for someone else. Donate food or personal items to a homeless shelter or a shelter for battered women; donate money to your favorite cause; donate blood to the blood bank; volunteer for a community clean up; do something that makes you feel fulfilled and a part of something bigger than yourself. People tend to feel better about themselves when they’ve done something charitable, so feed your soul and spirit with something more than candy hearts this Valentine’s Day.
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Great ideas. It can surely make someone feel better about themselves. For me though, I don’t really like to spoil myself. I mean, I’d rather buy something for someone else to make them happy than considering my own happiness. It makes me happy to see them happy and I guess that is what Valentines day is all about. Not just some plain romantic day.