For every ending point, there must obviously be a start. Divorces do not just happen overnight, in the majority of cases anyway. Spouses come to the decision to dissolve their marriage after some form of turmoil or trauma. There are usually a few common occurrences that contribute to two people deciding to call it quits. Finances or infidelity usually round out the top choices in that a department.
However, there have been studies done that show the underlying reasons for couples divorcing today. The signs are present, but many just do not understand them or know how to adjust to them. Below is a list of just some of the attributes that go into the reasoning behind most divorces.
Decline in Intimacy
One of the obvious tell tale signs is the lack of or significant decrease in intimacy between spouses. Spending time together and interacting with one another is fundamental to any relationship, not just a marriage. When this starts to wane, if there is nothing done to rectify it, the end is certainly near.
Increase in Arguments
Every relationship is not perfect, its important to fully understand that. Arguments are normal, within reason. Nobody can see eye to eye 100% of the time, but if arguments become more frequent, never get resolved, and begin to get more intense, divorce or separation are essentially edging closer. Resolving issues is essential and key to any healthy relationship.
Voluntarily Spending Time Away From One Another
Interaction and face to face time are what make any relationship thrive. When one spouse chooses to spend time away from the other, they are choosing to distance themselves and widen the gap that forms between them. When one partner is unwilling to spend any personal time with their spouse, there is a problem. If you don’t spend any time together you can’t have intimacy.
Many divorces come to be because couples choose to do these things on the aforementioned list. Perhaps if more spouses were observant and saw the signs, divorce would be at a much lower rate. This being said, hindsight is 20/20, as they say. At least knowing the pitfalls will steer some in the right direction and perhaps help aid in more reconciliations.