Marriages that end with one spouse deciding to file for divorce almost always start with hope and promise. But after a few years of getting used to one another and unknowingly stepping across critical, do-not-go-there lines, the two parties find themselves at an impasse. In order to prevent the inevitability of divorce papers, both parties need to recognize the issues that are dividing them and put a stop to it. But how can you save your marriage when hope seems lost? By stopping these behaviors immediately.
1. Ridiculing Your Partner
There may be a certain degree of good-natured ribbing that you can get away with, but the problem is that the lines eventually blur and one or both parties start to take those ribs seriously. For instance, criticizing your husband’s sexual performance, even in jest, or downing her publicly for how much money she spends — these things may start as a punchline but when they become an everyday or every-double date occurrence, you’re heading for disaster.
2. Not Talking Things Out
The longer you’re together, the more you start to realize how the other person “fights,” and you just let things go, perhaps more often than you should. Now we’re not saying that you should jump on every little foible or disagreement, but there’s a fine line between not wanting to escalate a fight and checking out of the relationship emotionally. Be very careful about “silencing” yourself and avoiding conflict in a relationship. You may think the not fighting thing is good, but it can cause you to grow apart.
3. Living By The Worst Case Scenario
Not everything will go your way in life, and if you and/or your partner respond negatively, it’s only a matter of time before that energy pours in to your relationship. While you don’t have to be happy about life’s failures, you shouldn’t have a defeatist attitude or always look at the cup as half-empty. That will either drive your partner away from you or it will wear off on your partner and make both of you miserable.
If you want to avoid divorce forms, then make sure that you fix these issues in your relationship right away. What are some other marriage mistakes that we didn’t include? Sound off in the comments section.