Cheaters have certainly become more brazen in the smartphone age.
Extramarital dating site Victoria Milan shows us just how brazen with a recent study in which 64 percent of more than 11,000 users polled admitted to sexting their affair partner while in the same room as their spouse. Furthermore, a significant portion of them had no fears that their spouse would find out and file for divorce, though they probably should.
As Huffington Post notes, prior studies have shown that men and women are not above going through their significant other’s phone to look for evidence of affairs, and 71 percent of women and 53 percent of men confess they have found out about affairs doing just that.
What are the lessons here?
1. If you don’t want to end up filling out divorce papers, don’t cheat. The smartphone age has made it far too tempting to check text messages and Internet histories if your S.O. expects something is amiss. And more than 50 percent of the time, you will get caught.
2. Don’t blame your spouse for snooping. Your spouse is your spouse. When you take the vows that “two become one,” you’re saying that there are no secrets between the two of you. If that’s not what you’re saying, then you shouldn’t take the vows in the first place. Marriages thrive on transparency, and if you’re a) giving your spouse a reason to snoop, and b) worried about what they might find should they go through your phone, then your hands are probably too dirty for marriage.
3. Be open and transparent with your spouse; if you can’t, then consider divorce forms before pursuing an affair. Affairs never make a marriage better. Your spouse may forgive you, but they will never trust you again no matter what they say.
Sexting and cheating are never good ideas, especially in this screenshot world we live in. Your spouse will usually find out, and even if they don’t and you decide to try and make the marriage work, you’ve got to worry about what your affair partner will end up doing with those photos should THEY feel rejected. Openness and honesty are far better options, even if it means making a tough decision.