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Anna Kendrick, the famous actress, Twitter personality, and “Cups” singer, has opened up about her parents’ decision to file for divorce, and what she has to say is hopeful to any child of divorce or parents thinking of taking the step.

“I hate when people think you’re broken because your parents are divorced,” the 28-year-old told Elle magazine during her cover interview for the June issue.

According to Huffington Post, Kendrick’s parents filed divorce papers when she was 15, but the actress believes it was the right decision.

“I really reject the idea of staying together for the kids. If they’re growing up in a house that’s not healthy, it’s better to know that’s not the model of what marriage should be.”

Why She Makes Sense

Staying together is as big of a gamble — if not bigger — than when the marriage isn’t working and you both decide to end it. Yes, there are studies that show adverse effects of divorce on children throughout their adult lives, but the only way that staying together would benefit them is if you could actually make the marriage work.

And making marriage work takes a lot more effort than simply staying together. That means if you’re still dead-set on staying together, there are two things you will need to do to make it beneficial.

1. Become better communicators. Closing down communication is probably the leading contributor to most marital problems. It isn’t always easy — in fact, if you’re contemplating divorce forms, it won’t be, because you’ll both need to confront some major issues — but it’s always worth it. Even if it leads to divorce, at least you tried and you know that ending the marriage is the right step.
2. Keep your kids out of the fighting. Inevitably, working through your problems will lead to more conflict, but if you’re “doing it for the kids,” then have the decency to distance them from the fighting and tension as much as possible.

Good luck no matter what you decide. Either way, your children can have a bright, well-adjusted future.

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