Anyone who has ever had to file for divorce knows that the process is seldom easy, even if you’re on the initiating end of it. One of the toughest decisions that I ever had to make in life was that of ending my first marriage. Unfortunately, there comes a point where the benefits of leaving outweigh those of staying and doing the latter does more harm than good.
In my case, it was over an affair my wife had and I was heartbroken. However, these comforts made the healing process a lot easier, and they may do the same for you.
1. Musical Getaways
For some reason, I had stopped listening to music and going to concerts for the four years that I was married. When I decided to file divorce papers, I needed encouragement, comfort, and something with which I could identify. I noticed almost inadvertently that I started listening to a LOT of music again, going to festivals like Memphis in May, and building my iPod collection. Every divorced person needs a soundtrack to get through the tough times, and I certainly had mine.
2. Culinary Rewards
For a number of years, I didn’t eat the things that I wanted to eat, instead opting for her start-and-stop attempts at gimmick diets. When I was out on my own again, I realized that it was up to me to get the food and the nutrition that I wanted, and so I embraced this aspect of the divorce and ended up losing 45 pounds in a year’s time. Doing better on my eating also made me feel okay about taking the occasional splurge.
3. Meeting New People
When my wife and all her friends were removed from my life, I felt like a casting director getting the opportunity to handle my own series. Unlike before, I was in complete control of who made the list and who didn’t. I no longer had to associate with negative people if I didn’t want to, and so anyone who might offer that kind of influence was excised from my life. This made dating and going out with groups of people more fun than it ever had been before.
Which little comforts of divorce helped you out in a big way after the divorce forms were final? Sound off in the comments section!