Divorce papers can come on unexpectedly from time to time, but most of the time you know in advance why you’ve reached the decision. For the seven people ahead, divorce forms weren’t just an option, they were the only option, all because they’d fallen out of love. Here they share the moments when they knew it happened. (Hat tip to reddit.)
1. “As I got to know her better and better, I realized how incompatible we are for each other… the love never really left it just transformed into being something not as intimate.”
2. “If they disappoint you enough times, you start seeing them differently.”
3. “When my ex told me I was a mediocre girlfriend and not wife material. You can’t bounce back from a statement like that.”
4. “He got seriously depressed, I supported him through a couple of episodes and helped him get meds. Which kind of complelty changed his personality. Okay, fine, people change, and it’s better than being suicidal. Except this new-person cheated. He was a different person than I married, and I didn’t like him. So I left.”
5. “I think the most recent event has been the off cuff remark that it’d be nice if I killed myself. A lot of things like that… but of course I just take it. Constant direct verbal attacks or passive aggressiveness.
“Handing over $200 to her for shopping for the week and when it comes time to do the shopping only having $60 of that left but that was my fault apparently. Begging me to get a fairly expensive treadmill… never used it. Getting me to sign up for a 12 month gym for her, never using it. Secretly using my credit card for random things and not telling me until I see the statement.
“I told my parents that I had thought of leaving her a couple of years ago but they then called her up and vouched that she’d have their support against me, so effectively being thrown under the bus by my own parents.
“So… here I am, loveless marriage and only it it to provide for the two kids. I don’t want them to end up being chavs/whitetrash/bogans, so I stick around because its my responsibility to society. Absolutely zero feelings for her.”
6. “After seven years I finally realized I was never in love with him. I just took the role of his mother and felt pity for him. He took advantage of my good qualities and dragged us deep into debt. I finally found my head and left.”
7. “He got too complacent and I ended up doing all the work. He told me it’s quite refreshing to meet a woman who takes the initiative. But come on now. Every … time? [That] gets old fast when you feel like you’re the only one invested in the relationship and he’s just going along for the ride.”
Do you know the moment you fell out of love and decided it was time to file for divorce? Share in our comments section.