Reaching the decision to file for divorce isn’t something to be taken lightly. Once you go down this path, you have to be prepared for fallout, such as changes in parenting techniques, pushback from your spouse over the settlement, and possibly having your family dragged through a lengthy and revealing legal process from which it can be hard to recover.
The more civil that two people can keep their divorce, the better off they and any children present in the relationship will be. The only way to keep things civil is to set realistic and reasonable goals so not to alienate your spouse during the process of filing divorce papers.
Here are some tips to do just that:
Try To Think Like Your Spouse.
Empathizing with what your spouse is going through may be the last thing that you want to do, especially when you feel they’ve wronged you through the act of infidelity or allowed substance abuse to control their lives and invade your own as well as the lives of your children. There’s no question that divorce can sometimes be brought about through the actions of one party. That old adage that “it takes two” couldn’t be further from the truth. However, before you give in to lashing out in revenge, try to step out of yourself for a moment and think about things from your spouse’s point of view. Doing so is not an admission of guilt on your part. It’s simply a helpful technique for keeping your cool and figuring out the best way to communicate so you can keep conflict to a minimum.
Remember The Kids.
If you have children, then you may find yourself in the position of balancing anger towards your spouse with you little ones’ ideal of their mother or father’s identity. Divorce is hard enough on children when they’re not being cast as pawns in a war between Mom and Dad. When they start to become ammunition, they become emotionally damaged, and that’s something no spouse should want.
Communicate.
Finally, commit to making the divorce forms submission process as easy as possible by being open to compromise and focused on moving on with your life rather than how you can get payback. With better communication, you can avoid the attorneys altogether and settle in for an affordable and efficient do-it-yourself divorce.
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