Many of the people who decide to file for divorce through our site do so because they’ve lost the ability to trust (or be trusted) by their spouses. Whether the issue is money, infidelity, or something else, when a lapse in trust comes, divorce papers are sure to follow.
But what are some things that married people do to one another to destroy trust between themselves? Here are a few.
Snooping
Your husband or wife gets up to use the restroom at a restaurant and leaves their phone at the table. What do you do? If your first response is to pick said phone up and go straight to their text messages, then trust will not be long for your relationship. You can’t stoop to this level. Even if they’re guilty, it can lead to obsession and the inability to trust anyone ever again.
Keeping Secrets
Under no circumstances should a healthy relationship be subject to secrets and lies. If you don’t feel like you can be honest with your spouse about everything, then you really have no business being married to them. You owe it to yourself and to that person to enjoy a life of honesty and transparency.
Lack Of Communication
What is your first instinct when there is tension in the relationship? Do you talk it out, or do you sweep it under the rug and decide, “Well, from now on, I’m never gonna blah blah blah”? Marriage is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do, and that’s when it’s successful. Of course, it’s hard because you have to be able to communicate through good times and bad. That’s difficult for a lot of people, and it’s even more difficult for two people who line up on their communication abilities to find one another.
Many couples file divorce forms against one another every day because they’ve lost the ability to trust in the other person. Don’t let that happen to you. Because when you can’t trust the person you made a lifelong commitment to, it gets harder and harder to trust anyone.